I reacted again. Not with shock. Not even with anger. Just that familiar mix of irritation and fatigue. My first thought was: Again?! Really?! Not because this was the worst thing ever said. But because I’ve seen this pattern so many times it might as well come with a template. I’ve written before about freedom…
Category: Development
Pure joy and the opposite
For once, Fabian’s game stated before bedtime! I praise the people behind the technology of internet, wi-fi and Ai, which made it possible for us to watch Fabbe Fab score, not one but two (!), goals. I love the pure joy a team shows after scoring. People united of their love for the sport instead…
Can someone please explain
Why is it so hard to let go? To just let them sort out things by them selves, whatever it might lead to. Apparently I’m normal, at least to chatGPT. Letting go is extremely hard. But I gotta! I now really need just to sit back and relax. Not think. Not feel. Not see the…
New Year’s Resolutions
New Year’s resolutions are really not for me. It’s not the resolution I’m against, it’s more the the determination of its timing. Changes and resolutions can be given any time of the year. But a year and its end encourage some of us to reflection and with that the opportunity to do things differently, better….
An End of an Era
Motherhood, what a journey it is. Our trip to NYC made it so clear to me, that my boys are adults and “we” are now something new, something different, something I haven’t fully understood. I have always striven to get independent children. That’s why I have made sure that they can handle the basics of…
Slow mornings
I might have mentioned this before, but one of my key findings (as they say) after coaching was that I don’t want stressful mornings. I don’t, on a daily basis, want to be forced to be at a certain place at a certain time. That’s what’s important to me. And I’m grateful to not need…
The evanescence of axiom
Is it only me that feels like axiom is disappearing? Nothing is no longer true, one can justify anything with one’s personal belief. Is this a contributor to the VUCA-world and what will it mean for mankind and democracy? Especially when people in power more commonly use it to distort anything? What kind of disorder…
Thank you Jefferson
For a long time I have reacted to people (athletes, politicians, company heads, artists and general idiots) for making excuses. It becomes so clear that they are more upset of getting caught than understanding what it was in his/hers behavior that was wrong. Generally it’s expressed in the form “I apologize to anyone who got…
A mum’s love – part 463
Being a parent is the toughest job/assignment ever. Now with adult/semi-adult children it is not the sleepless nights I’m thinking about (that’s perimenopause) and it’s not the agonizing conversations explaining the most fundamental logic things to the “not the sharpest tool in the shed” teenager. No, for me the absolute toughest part of being a…
Work, what is it?
One of the outcomes of my coaching (yes, I know I keep nagging about this coaching thing, but it was/is a huge thing for me) has left me with an alternative, or wider, view of work. In the society I’m part of, work is many times equal to employment in which a monetary compensation is…
Hello 2024
So what will happen 2024? Naturally we don’t know, but I will start to think of my goals and intentions for the upcoming year. I have a number of professional projects that I want to launch and others I want to start. Books, prints, exhibitions, and trainings to mention some. Let’s see what will be…
Bye bye 2023 – act III
The final reflection for 2023 I do through the question: What did I learn about myself in terms of values, priorities, and passions? My values have been grounded since 15-20 years back (probably longer, even if I wasn’t aware of them). I have talked about them previously, and I keep them even if I (wise…
Bye Bye 2023 – act II
The next question I ask myself in my annual reflection is: How have I grown personally and professionally in the past year? Well, the coaching I had together with Linnea and her Happy Business earlier this year has made me grow in ways, and at a speed, that wouldn’t have been possible otherwise. I’m just…
Bye bye 2023 – act I
It’s getting closer, the end. The end of 2023. What better way to round it up than to do some reflections. My most significant achievements and accomplishments this year? Yes, I’m one of them. One who has written goals and to-do lists (of feel like it lists as I call it nowadays) both for professional…
Breaks
I must realize that breaks are important. I’m the master of efficiency. But I have fooled myself to think that it only comes with me sitting in front of a computer. When I allow myself to break free and take a break, usually a walk with the dogs so many good ideas and perspective land…
The outcome
I promised you to tell you the outcome of my coaching process as well. Naturally it is very personal and nothing that can or should be applied to anyone else. As described previously I wasn’t really sure what I was expecting from the coaching when I contacted my coach, but as our first meeting got…
Listen very carefully…
… I shall only say this once. Getting up early in the morning, I mean SUPER early (05.15 am) to be at the gym to be ready with your workout before 7.00 am, is the best thing ever. It IS! I promise you it is. After being away for a week not doing much of…
My coaching process
My process probably wasn’t much different than anyone else’s. Maybe you get what you give during a coaching period, meaning it doesn’t really matter how much time you spend, you will still get answers out of it. As I’m in-between assignments right now, I gave it all. And boy what a ride I got. I…
Expectations of coaching?
To be totally honest with you, when contacting Linnea and Happy Business I didn’t really know why I did it or what I wanted to get out from the coaching. When I read the message I sent her, it was more a “I currently find myself at a time where I believe it would be…
Why coaching?
Is coaching for everyone? I’m sure it is, if you want to be coached. As a freedom fighter (you will see) like me, coaching is a better process to mentoring. As mentoring is more providing answers while sharing knowledge and experience, while coaching is being asked questions that I get to answer my self. Already…
My coaching journey
I still have one more session left with my coach after the summer, but as I feel that I have “already” figured out my thing, I will share my latest coaching journey with you guys. And even if I already have shared some of my process in nine (!) real time blog posts I will…
Is this God’s plan?
Drake’s song (do you call it songs nowadays?) God’s plan, is one of my favourites. Mainly because of the lyrics, or a small part of it, which I played together with Fabbe so many times: “She say, “Do you love me?” I tell her, “Only partlyI only love my bed and my momma, I’m sorry”…
I knew it
Don’t you just love those people who, presented with the correct answer, blurts out: “I knew it!”. I remember myself doing this at the last day of school when the class had a quiz. Every time it was my turn I said those words, very happy and probably somewhat frustrated. And the parents (including my…
Getting there
My coaching has been tough, still is tough. But little by little I’m starting to get “there”. To a place I feel comfortable being in, comfortable to start from. On my journey I have (and probably still will) challenged so many of my and contemporary truths about life. I still have things to figure out,…
Being a mum (parent)
Facebook reminded me about a memory. Today 11 years ago Fabian and I had one of our recurrent FFFs – Friday Fika with Fabian. Maybe it was these weekly visitis to the different cafés in the area that lay the foundation for today’s relationship. Still, much of my time is spent on being the housekeeper…
Confusion
Working with change over the years, I have run into the model Four rooms of change. This model was developed by the Swedish psychologist, Claes Janssen as part of his research on the dynamics of change. The four rooms – or psychological states of mind – are Contentment, Self-censorship (denial), Confusion-Conflict and Inspiration-Renewal. In my self…
The good girl
My coaching has given me things to think about and it is not 100% pleasant. It is not that I realize that I’m an asshole, but more spoken truths that sit hard and are a challenge to change. But once I have detected and become aware of them, I can also start to think differently…
We did something right
What your children are, is never only one thing and what they become is determined by so many different things. In our society today, we do not need more things to compare, and children should never be up for comparison. They just are. When your (on paper) grown-up son who still lives at home sends…
On the way forward
Isn’t strange how, when you start looking, you start seeing… Do I make sense? During our first session, my coach told me that creativity feeds creativity. When you allow yourself, when you take time to start thinking about things, thoughts and ideas just keeps on coming. Yesterday a creative friend of mine brought me along…
Continuously learning
As I mentioned a while back I currently have the need of exploring and this led me to contacting a coach. It’s not my first time around, I have done this at different times . I, to be quite honest, thought I had learnt all there is to learn about myself and that there is…
New season is on
Two weeks back the training matches started for F. I have promised both him and myself to take more pictures this year. It’s fun, because the boys apparently likes it and I often get the question if the camera will join.
The embodiment of change
I’ve been working with change for some time now, overall change management as well as communication. I don’t know if this is what made me good to handle change, or if it is my personal way of approaching and view change that makes me good at change management. Probably a combination Anyhow, I have always…
Dazzled by my own awesomeness
It’s great that there people out there who can remind you (me) of how fantastic you (I) are (am). Today, I had my first meeting with my coach, who I contacted because I felt need to explore my life. In 35 minutes I was reminded of my thinking and approach I had, when I left…
Next step
I’m at a point in my life, where I feel its necessary for me to explore. Explore my current situation and my future. When I hear the word searcher, the image that pops up in my mind is someone irresolute (usually a young female), who that ends up in a Hare Krishna community with a…
Have you ever heard?!
Looking around I see people that are so stressed. I must admit that I don’t see them that often anymore and this is probably a combo of 1) I don’t read (or interact) that much with others and 2) I and friends are in a different stage in life, were we simply have less things…
Freedom
I was asked by a high-school student to be interviewed about motivation. The first question was – what makes you motivated? And it got me thinking, what is it that get’s me motivated. I came to the conclusion that for me it is freedom. Freedom to have right do what I want. Naturally we can…
Season’s over
Today Fabian and his team played their last game for this season. A win. It’s been a tough and educational season as they played the top league. Now training continues as it does until Christmas comes. You gotta love football.
“Your mind had understood, but your heart hasn’t”
It was a colleague who said those words to me last week. I expressed my feelings of seeing my last boy being in his high for his independence. With Sam it was easier, maybe because of the fact that I still had another one coming. It was so I almost didn’t notice it. But now….
Him, myself and friends
I don’t want you readers to think that this has become a dog blog. But let’s face it. Both boys are nowadays kissing other girls than their mother (yes, I do spy on them and I’m not ashamed) and my role in their life is changing. I’m no-longer the centre of their universe and that…
Trying out the new camera
Bought myself a new mobile phone the other day. Haven’t done that in four years. The camera is really an upgrade and since the kids don’t want to model, I go for the little princess.
New beginnings
This morning was epic. For our family. Or for my husband. After 22.5 years as an emergency response operator (20.5 at his current company) the Mr worked his last shift. A nightshift. During the kids whole life, they have been told to “keep it down” because dad’s sleeping. Had a mother who didn’t do much…
Perspectives of time
I’m conscious about time. In the bigger perspective. To stop daily and reflect over things (usually my children and/or feelings connected to everyday activities). This gives me an awareness of now. A now that tomorrow is part of the past. It gives me knowledge that I was present while alive. I believe this will grant…
And the little one ❤️
Last day in junior high for this lad. I just can’t believe what time has done. I know I sound like a broken record but I just don’t. I’m so proud of both my boys.
Check ✅
An immense milestone was reach yesterday for our first born. Driving license. Oh they joy. It has been a somewhat struggle, but he kept the spirit, with strong support from his partens (primarily his mother I’d say). For me as a parent it’s paradox feeling. Happy for his success but also worried for the fact…
20 minutes at the mall
If that’s (header) what I get I sure take them. I’m not like my old teenage me, who L.O.V.E.D to shop. Loved it! Now I think shopping is both boring a bad for the the environment. But as you know, I love to be around my children. So after yesterday’s game, Fabian and I went…
Them – again
I don’t know if it’s because I’m a nostalgic sucker, because I’m getting old, because my family is my universe, because I am me or a combination of all above. But them kids. Gee, what is happening and I can I cope? This is nothing you think about getting pregnant or after delivering your baby….
A good week
Yes, the week has been extremely good, I guess it started already last Friday. Sam had his theoretical exam for his driver’s license. You must pass the theoretical one before the practical exam can done and the license is officially yours. Last time, for his moped license, he had some issues. Absolutely not for being…
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