Yesterday at the municipality’s business festival (which I believe has the best location in Sweden, Norrvikens trädgårdar), I ran in to an old acquaintance and former board colleague. We talked about the years that passed and how the kids are getting older, but that I don’t think Sam is ready to move out. Then she…
Category: Relationship
Being a mum (parent)
Facebook reminded me about a memory. Today 11 years ago Fabian and I had one of our recurrent FFFs – Friday Fika with Fabian. Maybe it was these weekly visitis to the different cafés in the area that lay the foundation for today’s relationship. Still, much of my time is spent on being the housekeeper…
A walk in a park
Friends Saturday I arranged for a catch-up with friends. Lovely spring weather, with icy winds, that magically disappeared as we sat our foot in the nature reserve, Jällabjär. 100-150 million years ago, in the era of dinosaurs this area was volcanic, today the only trace after the volcano is a 50 m tall hill which…
What I love
One thing that I love is my me time. I have understood that I don’t need it as much as I used to, during the weeks. But i love the fact that the Mr is involved in academy football at a elite football club. That demands him to be away a lot during the season….
To be needed
The biggest sorrow for us as a parents, is when we have succeeded in creating independent people of our children. When they were two and you couldn’t move a step before they cried to be with you/on you, maybe happiness wasn’t always the prominent feeling. But now when they are nineteen, I love the fact…
How a mother knows
Two times in half a week, I’ve been able to tell there was something going on, just by looking at my boys (to other peoples defense, my children are the worst liars). But it’s nice to know that we are that connected and that they trust me to be honest once I ask.
What do you do?
As I told you about a while back, the Mr has gotten himself a day job. Working shift is nothing but a memory. This means however, that we have a lot more time together. I’m “always” bragging about our relationship, which celebrates 30 years next summer. In hindsight, I’d say that one of the contributing…
How I wish…
… I was a manson (gender neutral word for a person that could be any person but most likely is a man). Then I could walk around life with no idea of anything not directly connected to my own (as in me) life. Things around the kids (birthdays, friends, shoe size, schedules etc etc) or…
“Your mind had understood, but your heart hasn’t”
It was a colleague who said those words to me last week. I expressed my feelings of seeing my last boy being in his high for his independence. With Sam it was easier, maybe because of the fact that I still had another one coming. It was so I almost didn’t notice it. But now….
Him, myself and friends
I don’t want you readers to think that this has become a dog blog. But let’s face it. Both boys are nowadays kissing other girls than their mother (yes, I do spy on them and I’m not ashamed) and my role in their life is changing. I’m no-longer the centre of their universe and that…
New beginnings
This morning was epic. For our family. Or for my husband. After 22.5 years as an emergency response operator (20.5 at his current company) the Mr worked his last shift. A nightshift. During the kids whole life, they have been told to “keep it down” because dad’s sleeping. Had a mother who didn’t do much…
The Friendship Inn
Last week it was Gothia Cup, the largest football youth cup. Fabbe’s team was there. His first time. As the mother I am, and can be. I took my work computer and camera and logged in at The Friendship Inn. Once again my childhood friend opened her doors for me and lend me a bed….
Time for someone else
The Mr and I caught up time with a “date night”. Football was on the agenda. The Mr is, as you are well aware of, assistant coach for Halmstad bollklubbs (HBK) boys aged 16 and have season tickets. We took the train (so strange, but good for us to skip the car) and then I…
Fun times
My biggest inability as a mother has been playing with my children. Lego building there has been some of and and cuddles and watching films. But imaginary games, not so much. Another thing that has been around has been board games and playing cards. The latter one is one of the most common things we…
Sam our man ❤️
He had us waiting. Not for long, but we first had some else cooking for May 2003, but “thankfully” that unborn was lost. But then he came. He was planned for 2 January 2004, but thanks to being a breech baby, we got a planned c-section and then – to meet my wish of not…
What would happen?
If we just one day said no. I will not do that? Or just stoped doing things? Stoped taking the freaking responsibility for everything. All the things that just happens to fall in your lap because no-one else is doing it. I’m talking about buying birthday gifts for EVERYONE, securing that the kids have clothes…
Contemplation & evaluation
The Mr and I try to catch up every now and then. In a more luxurious way than just over the dinner table or during a dog walk. Not that the luxury is necessary, but it doesn’t hurt. As we haven’t done/travelled anywhere in 2020 due to covid, we decided to treat ourselves with an…
When in Rome
After almost 15 years we did it. A only grown-up vacation. 4 days and 4 nights we were away from the children. Together with dear friends we went to Rome to celebrate love. As couples we’ve been together for 25 years. Our friends have been married for 15 and the Mr and I celebrated our…
Lessons learnt
Almost a week has past with not only without my husband but also my children! What have I learnt? I do enjoy my husband’s company, he is quite a lot of fun Without my children I have oceans of time (I new that already, but still) Without children I don’t need to eat different dishes…
Flawless or not
To be a teenage parent is hard. Harder than I ever expected. I would be a huge fan of any software you could run in their brains so they are ready by default. My current task is to support in the things, the things I thought I made clear long before (and so many times…
It’s not…
Five weeks of vacation is by the end of the day officially over, tomorrow it’s just a regular weekend. The Mr took two extra shifts (today and tomorrow), so from a family perspective vacation was over already at 5.30 am this morning. It’s not that I don’t like working, I kind of do and I’m…
Vacay – no 2
After returning from Österlen, but before celebrating F’s 11 birthday, I stoped by at home, re packed and went off to a short overnight trip with “the women”. A constellation of women where I feel very welcomed but also a little as the least sharpest tool in the shed. I know that this feeling is…
To not cave in
For me, it’s hard. To let go. To no be too intrusive. Sam is away with his class over night. Even if I want to know everything (like he would tell me, and that he would tell me while he’s away…), I resist the urge to continue the Snapchat conversation with his reply that everything…
Supernova
It’s a challenge, this life thing. Especially if you, as myself, demand progress. Particularly of myself. I love myself, but not so much that I don’t think there’s room for improvement. These areas of improvement are getting very clear as the kids develop. Great catalysts they are. The children. Love ’em for it even if I for sure…
Thank you
I want to personally thank the scriptwriters/actors to Catastrophe; Rob Delaney and Sharon Horgan. Catastrophe is the absolutely the best comedy series in the world at the moment. You know I’m a bad ass Modern Family fan too, but Catastrophe is European (i.e. allowed to be straight-up and dirty and getting away with it). 100% recognition at times. This…
Within 15 min
Your life can get a necessary energy boost, just by hooking up with the right people. A phone-call, a coffee and two conversations later, you have gotten both energy, new ideas and perspective. Not too bad on a Friday morning.
Happy
I look at this picture and get so happy. My great little family. Thankful.
Shit in – shit out
I get ridiculously fulfilled by conversations. Conversations between smart individuals (myself included). The type of conversations that do not seem to have no end. Where you go from topic to topic to share and learn. Conversations with people who can argue and question you with full respect of you and your viewpoints. And where your viewpoints are…
It is simple
It is pretty simple. You like each other and you become friends. But friendship can change. There is no guarantee that one like one another after 25 years. Bring two husbands and four children into the pictures and there is a lot that doesn’t necessarily add up. Or it just does. Or maybe it is…
Father’s day
Today it is father’s day in Sweden. My father has always worked a lot, but had his base for his business from home, so I don’t think there were many days I did’t see him. I can still remember sitting lap singing our own little chant about me. Getting a good life for him and…
A trip to Denmark
Out of the blue the Mr said: “Ah, the heck with it, let’s go to Copenhagen!”. So we did. An overnight stay with animals, art, design and shopping. With the best boys around.
Three years ago
Today we had breakfast at Appelbee’s (Fabian consuming a mountain of pancakes) and afterwards turning to the Top of the Rock, tying the knot and becoming Mr & Mrs Dock. I remember the day as it was yesterday, partly because photographer Pontus Höök documented it all. We’ve been together since 1993. Loving, laughing and at…
A blue day
Today, due to technical issues, I couldn’t work. It became a blue day, in the best way. I went with my boys to Hallandsväderö, a small island and nature reserve. We walked the trails, found piece of the island where only we were and all we did was just being there, together. It was a…
What to do
Somtimes I just want to hug my children and tell them that everything is going to be all right. So that is exactly what I do. #theonlywayicanbeaparent
An ordinary life
I belong to what people would call “the commoners”. I am not famous (not notorious either for that matter). I don’t have famous friends. I don’t have loads of money that can take me all the places I want to go (this I would like to have, not so much the money as being able to…
A tornado in a trailer park
I know I am not all good. For sure I am quite demanding. I do not see well on mistakes, at least not the second time they appear. But I would also give myself cred. I see myself as a quite fun wife. Who after 22 (June 2015) years can both surprise her Mr into silence…
And three hours later…
…the Mr and I have a perfectly tidy bedroom. This was our boys way of calling truce after our breakfast battle. I was of course super happy and I didn’t use the word “but”. We sat down in the made bed (made bed in our bedroom never happens, unless a real-estate agent is about to visit)…
All my boys
I am one of them who strongly misbelieve the ones who, in their social media status, constantly tell how fantastic their partners and/or children are. We all know they might be and most likely are asses (or something similar) more often than they are perfect. Never the less I realize i am one of them….
Proud
If you generalize, Swede’s are very poor at being proud over them selves. We are usually not the ones who will climb up a mountain and scream out our joy for being ourselves, just because we are soooo good. Or, maybe that is exactly where we would do it, as nobody would hear us on the…
A little wish
While I was dying of my minor ebola case last Friday night. I heard both the Mr and our oldest feeling for me. I woke up every 30 minutes to rejoin the bathroom. And all Saturday I tried to catch up the lost sleep of the night before and getting my body back to status…
Yoga
Said it before, will say it again. Yoga is da shit. I guess the Mr says the same about Destiny. Haven’t seen him all night…
Post vacation / pre-work analysis
Hmm… four weeks. After four weeks of absolute nothing and everything, it is time to get up and get dressed before 10 o’clock in the morning. It is clear that I love to be around my children and husband doing “nothing”. That nothing meaning to do whatever we feel like (and this summer we also…
Gone fishing
The Mr decided today’s activity. Fishing. I did what I love almost the most, take pictures without the need to deliver. But please do not be fooled by the idyllic scenes, we had a lovely time together on our excursion, but before and after we were haunted by the offsprings of satan. Really, think twice about…
Noooooooooo
Not a good sign. We are getting sloppy. Not regarding the cleaning, we have been sloppy about that for years. Our anniversary! How could we miss it?! More staggeringly, how could I miss it?! Last Wednesday, 21 years and not a card, no anniversary wishes. Probaby a kiss or two and a squeeze on the…
Following your heart
It is cool when you can witness someone else’s happiness in real time. Like yesterday when Sam was on his Taekwondo green belt grading. He didn’t pass, his selfdefense needed some more practice. But if you could see the pure joy in his eyes when they were to sparr with a “red-belt guy”. Gee, he really…
Good day
Today I am grateful for our children. They are really good at taking responsibility for themselves when they need to. Today I also got a compliment for my outfit (which NEVER happens for several reasons) from our oldest. The younger one was giving us a private concert when he listen to “Love me, love me”…
Louise Dock 