Today is the national day of Sweden. Hurra! 🇸🇪 It’s pretty new as an official holiday. Apparently it was the founder of Nordiska museet, Artur Hazelius, who 1893 started to celebrate the day by arranging a spring party at Skansen in memory of the election of Gustaf Vasa as King of Sweden in 1523 and…
Category: Life in general
My coaching journey
I still have one more session left with my coach after the summer, but as I feel that I have “already” figured out my thing, I will share my latest coaching journey with you guys. And even if I already have shared some of my process in nine (!) real time blog posts I will…
Is this God’s plan?
Drake’s song (do you call it songs nowadays?) God’s plan, is one of my favourites. Mainly because of the lyrics, or a small part of it, which I played together with Fabbe so many times: “She say, “Do you love me?” I tell her, “Only partlyI only love my bed and my momma, I’m sorry”…
Why my generation always will be needed
The simple answer, because we have a brain and we use it. We understand that even if I personally cannot help the customer, the customer needs help and I am the one who can lead that process forward. When I explain to the wee lad that I cannot register electronic invoices, explained to him what…
Another whim
Remember that about the cherry blossom, that I need to take pictures of them every year. I have another whim connected to flowers and that is that I need to smell, no not smell, inhale the scent of lilacs. Every year when the lilacs blossom I need to inhale the scent in a moment of…
Being a mum (parent)
Facebook reminded me about a memory. Today 11 years ago Fabian and I had one of our recurrent FFFs – Friday Fika with Fabian. Maybe it was these weekly visitis to the different cafés in the area that lay the foundation for today’s relationship. Still, much of my time is spent on being the housekeeper…
It was a happy Easter
For sure it was. First of all the weather. Finally some warmth. March has been grey, rainy and cold. I think it rained every day in March. Then the time off. Since the Mr changed to day-job he was off the whole Easter, otherwise it was every other and on the other I didn’t do…
The good girl
My coaching has given me things to think about and it is not 100% pleasant. It is not that I realize that I’m an asshole, but more spoken truths that sit hard and are a challenge to change. But once I have detected and become aware of them, I can also start to think differently…
We did something right
What your children are, is never only one thing and what they become is determined by so many different things. In our society today, we do not need more things to compare, and children should never be up for comparison. They just are. When your (on paper) grown-up son who still lives at home sends…
A walk in a park
Friends Saturday I arranged for a catch-up with friends. Lovely spring weather, with icy winds, that magically disappeared as we sat our foot in the nature reserve, Jällabjär. 100-150 million years ago, in the era of dinosaurs this area was volcanic, today the only trace after the volcano is a 50 m tall hill which…
Satisfactory deluxe
In April two years ago, the Mr, the much better and smarter one of us, was very resolute that we should install solar panels. I was hesitant at first (due to the cost), but “caved in”. Naturally, with the ongoing energy crisis, it was a smart investment. It, together with the fixed price offer he…
New fav day
Since the Mr started his day job, my favourite day of the week is Wednesdays. First of all, he usually works from home that day. This means that the two of us can cook together (or I don’t have to be alone with this godforsaken chore, cooking it tears the life out of me) and…
The embodiment of double standard
Some posts ago I wrote about how good I am with change. Some time ago I also wrote about how the Mr and I changed banks. Now, if I truly am as good with change as I claim, then I wouldn’t mind changing banks now would I? It’s the end of the month and that…
Dazzled by my own awesomeness
It’s great that there people out there who can remind you (me) of how fantastic you (I) are (am). Today, I had my first meeting with my coach, who I contacted because I felt need to explore my life. In 35 minutes I was reminded of my thinking and approach I had, when I left…
Death as a constant companion
During the last weeks we’ve been reminded that life is not forever. Buddy Boy is getting older and some days life seems to move faster towards its end. We’ve decided that we shouldn’t wait until he’s really bad, but still it’s so hard to understand when that is. Until then, we enjoy life.
Banks and bulls, why I don’t like to become old
I don’t have a problem with getting old physically… now that’s a lie! I hate that too, but do my best to “stop Olle at the gate”*. But one thing I do see deteriorating already now, is my ability to keep up with things mentally. The Mr and I just changed banks to get a…
Next step
I’m at a point in my life, where I feel its necessary for me to explore. Explore my current situation and my future. When I hear the word searcher, the image that pops up in my mind is someone irresolute (usually a young female), who that ends up in a Hare Krishna community with a…
A good day
Today is a good day. Today as well. And it’s not even over. Started at the gym, with the 6 am club. Don’t you just hate it. I did. These people who exercise. IN THE MORNING! Dog walk, meeting with architect (we are planning an extension), some YinYoga and to top it off fika with…
One of those moments
Today I experienced total fulfillment. One of those moments when life is complete. A moment which, if you are aware, defines happiness. It’s these moments I strive for. Sam and I was talking while walking the dogs and I asked him what he wanted out of life. He answered me so wise, so adult. We…
How a mother knows
Two times in half a week, I’ve been able to tell there was something going on, just by looking at my boys (to other peoples defense, my children are the worst liars). But it’s nice to know that we are that connected and that they trust me to be honest once I ask.
Edit: Summarizing 2022
Was told that my proudest moment 2022 wasn’t the goal Fabian did. Apparently it’s not. Apparently it is that the Mr, as assistant coach took (with his coaching partners) his team to national final for boys born 2006. Yes, that’s something to be very proud of. And I would have been if they won. The…
Only five to go
Today is Fabian’s last day of the term/semester. Only five more to go then he too, is out of school. Can’t be reminded often enough how fast life goes. Yesterday was our annual Christmas cooking eve. For years we have forced the boys to be present in the traditional meatball making, now I think they…
Winter’s coming
This post I should have written a week ago. Now winter is here and according to the weather reports gone by Monday. It would have been great with a white Christmas. Today it was -18 C when Sam drove from work around 7 am. When walking Tesla (yes, with my studs) it was only -15…
That old!
For years I’ve been telling myself to get winter shoes with studs. Yes, that’s how old I am. When you’re living in a town built on the base of a ridge you need studs during the winter. Especially if you have this. I’ve been looking at one Swedish brand “Ice-bug“, but then I ran into…
No wonder people get stressed
I went to the my client’s office a while back. It doesn’t happen often. Thank God Covid19 taught us to work from a distance. One of the reasons I don’t visit the office is that the team I work with the most doesn’t sit there. Thereto it’s 1,5 hrs away (train or car) from my…
Have you ever heard?!
Looking around I see people that are so stressed. I must admit that I don’t see them that often anymore and this is probably a combo of 1) I don’t read (or interact) that much with others and 2) I and friends are in a different stage in life, were we simply have less things…
What do you do?
As I told you about a while back, the Mr has gotten himself a day job. Working shift is nothing but a memory. This means however, that we have a lot more time together. I’m “always” bragging about our relationship, which celebrates 30 years next summer. In hindsight, I’d say that one of the contributing…
Is it time?
Some time back, I downloaded all my content from Facebook and Instagram and promised myself to stop posting (or at least limit my no. of posts) and so I did. For Facebook I only shared old content or content from others, nothing personal. On Instagram I went from posting almost daily (back in the days…
I’m not alone
Had lunch with a friend of mine. We talked about life and what’s happening and came to the conclusion we share an issue. We are both mother’s of two sons in similar age, not that I think that our offsprings’ gender has too much to about our common dilemma, which is – our ability to…
Freedom
I was asked by a high-school student to be interviewed about motivation. The first question was – what makes you motivated? And it got me thinking, what is it that get’s me motivated. I came to the conclusion that for me it is freedom. Freedom to have right do what I want. Naturally we can…
Season’s over
Today Fabian and his team played their last game for this season. A win. It’s been a tough and educational season as they played the top league. Now training continues as it does until Christmas comes. You gotta love football.
“Your mind had understood, but your heart hasn’t”
It was a colleague who said those words to me last week. I expressed my feelings of seeing my last boy being in his high for his independence. With Sam it was easier, maybe because of the fact that I still had another one coming. It was so I almost didn’t notice it. But now….
So much stupidity
Watching/listening to today’s morning news. And I’m flabbergasted of the amount of effort people are willing to give, to avoid to take responsibility. And how poorly equipped we are to remove these bad apples (I don’t mean we should execute them, just secure that they can’t hurt more people, getting rid of them in the…
Play date
So her best Ridgeback friend is down at her summer home and we were invited to come play. Great times!
New beginnings
This morning was epic. For our family. Or for my husband. After 22.5 years as an emergency response operator (20.5 at his current company) the Mr worked his last shift. A nightshift. During the kids whole life, they have been told to “keep it down” because dad’s sleeping. Had a mother who didn’t do much…
Life reminding itself
You need them. Once in a while you need that inexorably punch in your stomach. A punch that shakes you to your core. A blow that makes an average Friday night important and reminds you that all your days are the most important you have. Because they are your life. I was aimlessly scrolling my…
Perspectives of time
I’m conscious about time. In the bigger perspective. To stop daily and reflect over things (usually my children and/or feelings connected to everyday activities). This gives me an awareness of now. A now that tomorrow is part of the past. It gives me knowledge that I was present while alive. I believe this will grant…
Time for someone else
The Mr and I caught up time with a “date night”. Football was on the agenda. The Mr is, as you are well aware of, assistant coach for Halmstad bollklubbs (HBK) boys aged 16 and have season tickets. We took the train (so strange, but good for us to skip the car) and then I…
Review Skiathos
It started with poor imagination. The Mr wanted to go abroad during his vacation. No discussion. I never have that need. Or possibly I never need to, as my husband always wins that race. I understand him though. Living in Sweden and having an early vacation in June – you never know what weather you’ll…
And the little one ❤️
Last day in junior high for this lad. I just can’t believe what time has done. I know I sound like a broken record but I just don’t. I’m so proud of both my boys.
What happened
Today Sam came home with his graduation cap. I can’t comprehend this. Our oldest is done with school. He’s officially a real adult and we don’t need to care for him. Naturally I teared up. I’m so not ready for this and I force myself to remind myself what his daycare teacher Helene told me,…
Will not!
Yesterday I heard Fabian coughing… again. He later complained about a soar throat. And then some more coughing. Last week the whole family was well after four weeks of cold from one to another and now we are back at it. I almost panicked when I heard the coughing. I will not WILL NOT be…
Free unsolicited advise
If you have a returning cost, say a burglar alarm, which possibly has risen in cost annually. Don’t be afraid to call the company and ask what they can do about it. Because they can. And they probably will. We now lowered our quarterly cost with 6 bottles of fine wine. I try not tho…
Good at
I’m very good at many things (almost everything), but there is one thing that I would say there is one thing I’m a liiiiiiiiitle better at than many of you (not that it’s a competition), and that is. to treat myself. To treat my self a going to the theater watching plays, music, musicals and…
Friday tulips
Almost every Friday I purchase a bouquet flowers, usually tulips. Nowadays it doesn’t only bright my day up, flowers makes you happy, but I also think of my friend Monika. She also likes tulips and always purchase white ones. I can’t limit myself I need have colours and different ones every time. Happy Friday all,…
Unbelievable
I will just say that what’s happening right now is unbelievable. Unbelievable and wrong. (I will ignore the fact that the site went down twice writing this).
Fantastic parents
Sam wasn’t selected to make the military service. Due to lactose intolerance… We were all kind of surprised about this, especially that it wasn’t sorted before the physical visit. We were thinking that he might get removed by his hearing, but he never came that far. But no sad faces on any of us. And…
Short feeback
The message to our little miss T seems to have worked. Last night she didn’t bother come into our bedroom. On the other hand her big brother did. So if anyone has a minute over, please inform him, that no dogs should be co-sleeping in our bed going forward. Thank you,
Louise Dock 