Yesterday there was a party for our young adult. 15 friends showed up (they were invited). Young adults, mainly of the male gender. What a great bunch! When the party was over the last ones standing both initiated and handed the cleaning – the house was almost in a better shape after than when they…
Category: Development
The best
Sam bought the family the best Christmas gift ever – a chess game. Chess?! The closest I’ve come to understanding chess is watching all episodes of The Queens Gambit. Chess has always frighten me. The pieces are many, have funny names and can go in different directions – all in different ones. It’s all just…
They made it
Fabian’s football team had qualifying games for a national league (which of course is not one, but several). Anyhow, there were three teams qualifying and… Do you know what?! The boys did it. So next season they will meet fierce competition, making them better players. Fabian chose to get ill after the first game and…
Hungry for more
Yes, sometime us happy people are very VERY provocative. Like yesterday, when I woke up at 05.30 when the Mr’s alarm went off (I mean, someone’s gotta work) and didn’t even get upset about it. Instead I felt grateful. Instead of moping I took the opportunity to improve myself. I listened to a pod, read…
What’s the difference?
Isn’t it strange? That we encourage some with their dreams but not others? Why is it OK to become a doctor or a lawyer, but very seldom we don’t greet people with the same enthusiasm when someone says they what to pursue a career in basketball or become a painter? When those ambitions are mentioned…
The delusion of control
A couple of years back I had an assignment at a customer who was in the process of implementing “a self managing organisation”. I don’t know if this post has anything to do with the fact that the company was exploring self management and going through a transformation, but one epiphany during this time was…
Contemplation & evaluation
The Mr and I try to catch up every now and then. In a more luxurious way than just over the dinner table or during a dog walk. Not that the luxury is necessary, but it doesn’t hurt. As we haven’t done/travelled anywhere in 2020 due to covid, we decided to treat ourselves with an…
Wanting & needing
This year, on the last day of June, it will be 5 years since we moved into our new house. A house somewhat original but still very common. Already when we moved in, I had decided to build a new one as soon as the kids are out. Why? Because I want more from a…
Limits
Sometimes I notice how limiting others (especially grown-ups) are towards other people. It’s especially upsetting when they are it towards children (and naturally my own). Do not limit the brains of a youngster! Let them believe they can accomplish anything and everything. Hopefully, with my awareness, I’m not. On the other hand I know that…
Shared happiness
I won’t go as far as claiming that only shared happiness is real. But when you see someone else happy, it is a gooood feeling. To see the Mr in his right element, teaching soccer, I really get happy.
Happiness
…is when you see people develop, questioning pre-conceived notions of how things should be.
Ignorance is bliss
I’m aware that I don’t know everything (just say “IT integrations” or “IT migration” and I start hyperventilate). There are so many things I don’t know anything of, that life has spared me. This still makes it ok for me to have opinions about things, but before I do, I do need to acknowledge this…
Transformation
Getting reminded by Facebook what I did a year ago. Remember. The boys and I went to Gothenburg of a day out. If I recall correctly this was the day after Sam got rid of his cast. Could that be correct? But I guess it could. He wasn’t more than five weeks in the cast. Nevermind,…
How stupid would I be
If I didn’t cherish every single day. People might think I’m naive for thinking like that. I know I’m not. Reposting an old picture on my Facebook profile with our small dudes. So small. Even if I can’r recollect those times, I know I appreciated them. Because I do it every day. Every single day I…
Flashback
Facebook presented a clip of new version of an oldie goldie (yes, anything from the 90’s or earlier counts as that). Just as I said when I shared the clip. A good song is always a good song and everything becomes better with age. I loved this song in 1997 and even more in 2017. Gets…
The thrills of gardening
In the glamorous life of me, not much happens at the moment. Assignment, school, practice are all back on. But I had a garden designer stopping by to challenge both our garden to be and our selves. We are not garden people at all. No interest, no knowledge. I have thought that due to the fact…
Supernova
It’s a challenge, this life thing. Especially if you, as myself, demand progress. Particularly of myself. I love myself, but not so much that I don’t think there’s room for improvement. These areas of improvement are getting very clear as the kids develop. Great catalysts they are. The children. Love ’em for it even if I for sure…
Stupid is that stupid does
Is it so that mankind, to survive, continues to lure herself that life follows a progressive path? Because it clearly doesn’t and, what is worse, I get surprised every single time. Life as a parent (ans maybe as a human being) is more one step forward and two steps back. I hardly had pressed the…
Happiness can also be…
… when the same teenager comes home from youth club only because he remembers his practice. And ALL by him self (or at least without parental guidance). Maybe that brain of his is more than just looks….
Progress
Since September I’m back with my FABULOUS PT Jessica. I missed both her and what the result of her rehab (shoulder that’s been bothering me for years) and training did to me, my body and my mind. When I started this spring I got totally silent after say 15 minutes into the session. After that…
Damn it
The truths of all truths. The freaking power of now. My friend (she who taught me to eat eggs and omelett) said that I must read Eckhart Tolle‘s book “The power of now“. A book she found provoking but still could understand if not practically so at theoretically level and could understand its thesis. I haven’t…
Kickus maximus in gluteus maximus
That is what I received today. A big ass ass kick. To get going, to dare to break barriers and old habits. It is so hard and I do question if I need to, while I in parallell know that if I don’t, I just use fears and laziness to become scapegoats to what I really want from…
Screw you Mercury
Apparently Mercury is in retrograde. I’m not a firm believer in astrology more than Libras are the kick-ass zodiac sign (smart, charming, lovable etc. etc.) nor do I fully understand what it means, but it ain’t good. But on the other hand it explains a lot and things will turn (for the better) and until…
Finally
I have finally learnt to make a fire with only paper, cardboard and wood. I will survive the apocalypse and earned the right to call myself adult. Wicked!
To know what you want and get it
Personally I am all for goal setting and delivering. I’m also very aware that I as a person many times am perceived as very selfish for the fact that I set my goals after what I want. On the other hand in my quest to fulfill them I do not play foul or I hurt people (at…
Find those people
As a freelance and consultant I do not expect to get praise. I get paid ;). My raison d’etre is to be used where needed, because of my skills (and persona). But, since I started my own business I’ve received so much more positive feedback based on my deliverables. It could be so, that I perform better now,…
You only live once right?
Today I did something crazy, something out of the blue, probably won’t happen and in total contradiction to one of my latest posts. It is a little bit like, be careful for what you wish for, you might just get it! Happy Midsummer all.
Another mother’s day
Very few have missed that my sons are my everything. The inspire me. They make me laugh and they are one of the reasons why I am happy. To share their successes and adversities creates an additional dimension of life. One that is not even possible to compare to anything else. Last night Sam was…
Trying to convince myself
I know that the best thing I can do is to just go with it, there is not much/anything I can do. And that is killing me right now. To know what I want, to have it at an arms length, but still way out of reach and foremost out of my control. Trying to…
Call me a bought crybaby, I do not care
I know this is content for Pandora jewelry. And I do exactly what they want me to do with it – share it. And I don’t ever care much for gems. I cried before the first frame was done showing. Kids, there aint nothing better.
There is a time for everything
Two summers ago the Mr and I stood by the ocean while our kids were swimming and playing in it and asked ourselves; “Is it time to move back?” 16 years ago we left the Mr’s home town to move to the other side of the country. Two years later we were looking for a house to turn into a…
He that seeketh findeth
As you all know I am not a christian in the traditional conservatory sense, but I have done my own interpretation of what it means to believe. Thoughts that for sure would send a witch-hunt after me during the 16th and 17th century. And by Golly if I haven’t, once again, found a passage in…
Thoughts
For many people it is action that is the missing factor. They know exactly what they should do, “if only”. One could describe them in a negative manner like people not having the balls to get their shit together and do something about their lives. I would probably describe them as “scared”. It is hard to…
Just according to plan
Tomorrow, dear friends is my 40th birthday and today our youngest showed his first ever interest in the female gender. Just according to plan. “Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives.”
School pics
They are here! The annual school pics. Unnecessary for someone like me who claims to take better pics herself, but still fun to have. To see how they grow. My darlings.
Been blogging for a while
I started this blog in end of 2007, so for the fairness of it, let’s say 2008. That my friends, is six years. Six years of sharing more or less important widsoms and parts of my glamourous (irony) life. With a try of comic twist and half-bad English I have lens myself to friends, enemies…
A good person
I know it might sound presumptuous. I am well aware that I have a recoccuring (not totally sound) hybris. But do you know, I really, truly do not give a s**t. During the last days I received some really nice feedback. Of who I am. Not what I do (because there I am not quite…
Post vacation / pre-work analysis
Hmm… four weeks. After four weeks of absolute nothing and everything, it is time to get up and get dressed before 10 o’clock in the morning. It is clear that I love to be around my children and husband doing “nothing”. That nothing meaning to do whatever we feel like (and this summer we also…
Satisfaction
The sense of satisfaction when you realize you have mastered something. The moment when you become aware that you achieve what you wanted to achieve. Backlight. No biggie. Not anymore. I just do. What will be my next step on my development ladder?
School starts
Tomorrow Sam’s first day at school. Preschool, but still school and not daycare. He is exited. I am existed! Now, a 12 year journey starts. 12 freaking years of school! or 16! or more! Oh, my Lord!
Louise Dock 