Back from the States, I was a young adult with life a ahead of me. Party was my middle name, but just during the weekends… We took turns driving to the cities were the clubs were (or not the first 6 months because Helena was the only one with a drivers license) and danced, laughed and…
Category: Life in general
Oh!
I forgot one very important thing in my post what I would and wouldn’t do if I was a single mother. I for sure, really, really sure, would not build a new house.
Happy
I look at this picture and get so happy. My great little family. Thankful.
Here they are
2/3 of my boys in da making. The boys father (both boys in case your were wondering-apparently some do…) is the best dad. As all parents (including myself even if they a minimum…) he has his flaws, but he is available. He won’t teach them how to build things, or fix cars but how to…
Shit in – shit out
I get ridiculously fulfilled by conversations. Conversations between smart individuals (myself included). The type of conversations that do not seem to have no end. Where you go from topic to topic to share and learn. Conversations with people who can argue and question you with full respect of you and your viewpoints. And where your viewpoints are…
It is simple
It is pretty simple. You like each other and you become friends. But friendship can change. There is no guarantee that one like one another after 25 years. Bring two husbands and four children into the pictures and there is a lot that doesn’t necessarily add up. Or it just does. Or maybe it is…
Expectations
“Mama always said life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.” Isn’t that the truth. Our winter vacation started with a fractured foot for Sam. He was a happy camper after the day’s private snowboarding school and wanted to be signed up for another one today, and of course…
Zlatan is in da house
In our family we have entered a new era. The era of young boys smelling gooood. For Christmas and birthday our sons got things to make them smell favourably. And it sure smells. Walking into F’s room is like walking into a mist of early manhood. I do wonder if anything is actually sprayed on…
Just a number?
Watched (please don’t judge) “The millionaire matchmaker” yesterday. Mostly for an educational purpose, to show what kind of of partner the boys should and shouldn’t choose. But also because there’s NOTHING else to watch a Saturday night… Anyway, one of the male millionaires was 45. 5 minutes after my own mental reflection the Mr expressed…
What you need
One think that all you need is good friends. But unfortunately it is not that simple. You need smart friends. Insightful friends. Who can sparr you when you need it. Who leaves you filled with energy to take you to the next level. And thankfully I have these friends. Thank you. You know who you are.
12 years of bliss
Well, maybe not really, but more or less. My personality type focus on the positives. We have had our shares of downs and will continue to have it during the years to come (apparently that is what life is all about). But in retrospect we’ve handled them and that’s what matters, right? Yesterday he turned…
Father’s day
Today it is father’s day in Sweden. My father has always worked a lot, but had his base for his business from home, so I don’t think there were many days I did’t see him. I can still remember sitting lap singing our own little chant about me. Getting a good life for him and…
Perspective
Last night, when I lay down in my medium hard bed, with my “medium to warm” duvet, my head was filled with the images from the shores of Turkey, the central station in Budapest, the boarders of Syria and the young children caring for their infant siblings. Somewhere among the pictures of men and women, holding…
Happiness in different forms and shapes
Happiness could be in the form of a spherical object. Just ask the man I met 20 some years ago (and joined, if not in holy, matrimony three years ago). I know he loves me and our off-springs more than anything. No questions asked. But there is one thing that at times, brings him more happiness,…
No, I will not
I will not find your taekwondo dobok when you realize you need it. 10 min prior to practise. It was not I who wore it at last practise and it is not me who has been home since 2.00 pm doing what ever else but looking for it. Sorry, that is just the kind of…
We’re building a home
For those of you who like to practise your Swedish or feel confident that Google translate will be able to make sense of it, visit my new blog: http://www.attbyggaetthem.wordpress.com to follow our journey to move to a new place and build our new home. Welcome!
Mini week-end
We went to Gothenburg on a mini week-end with a hotel stay and with our goal set on the amusement park Liseberg. For the first time I didn’t go on any rides. Last year’s encounter with the ride Helix, made me take the decision. Maybe for life. (I love rides for the ride, but my balance…
A blue day
Today, due to technical issues, I couldn’t work. It became a blue day, in the best way. I went with my boys to Hallandsväderö, a small island and nature reserve. We walked the trails, found piece of the island where only we were and all we did was just being there, together. It was a…
The wonderful task of doing absolutely nothing
I am doer. I dream and plan things and then I do them. And one thing I do best is nothing. I do not have a problem to spend a day or two doing absolutely nothing. Yesterday was one of those days and I think this one will be the same.
Soccer & The Minions
Nine years ago I was in this very minute in labour. I wonder if it was now I, somewhat angry, said I didn’t care anymore. That I was about to go home. It was a great labour. Where I decided to work with my body. After 3,5 hrs at the hospital he was out. Our second star….
Tik tok
On Thursday he turns 9. 9? 9! I realize that it doesn’t matter where the time go. The important thing is what we do with it.
When time is not enough
Sometimes time can never be enough. Like when you meet a friend and you have so much to talk about. And you realize that it wouldn’t matter if you had more time. It simply wouldn’t be enough to empty the things that need to be ventilated. All the things from kids, friendship to career. Or…
Redundant
I remember the times when all I asked for was 10 minutes by myself. Preferably doing something fun and semi-rewarding but I’d settle for alone-time in the bathroom. But not even that was possible. I also remembered the time when both of the kids where off on playdates and I got so much free time…
You only live once right?
Today I did something crazy, something out of the blue, probably won’t happen and in total contradiction to one of my latest posts. It is a little bit like, be careful for what you wish for, you might just get it! Happy Midsummer all.
Today was the day
When F really understood soccer and how you play it. He and his team had a plan, made the shots from defens, to middle field and F scored. Looking forward to the VIP launch at Old Trafford and/or Camp Nou.
Summer is here
The Swedish of all Swedish things. Probably more Swedish than Midsummer is end of term (skolavslutning). I don’t think I am more proud to be Swedish than at this specific time. New for this year is that our school had the ceremony on the evening rather than the morning. It was perfect. The sun came…
The question
The most common question I get nowadays is if I like being “on my own” aka self-employed. And the answer to it is yes. Yes, and nothing but yes, at least for now. I have during my 1.5 years as self-employed noticed a change in behaviour when you move from role to a needed skill. When you…
Another mother’s day
Very few have missed that my sons are my everything. The inspire me. They make me laugh and they are one of the reasons why I am happy. To share their successes and adversities creates an additional dimension of life. One that is not even possible to compare to anything else. Last night Sam was…
Mother’s day
The scent of the Lillies of the valley standing on the kitchen table reach my anosmia and reminds me that they summer together with the last day of school IS here (even if the whether tells me differently). Yesterday (Swedish Mother’s day) was spent at my childhood home (most probably for the last time) as my…
To Russia with love
As Pride is going on in Russia at the moment, let’s listen to this tune made by my former colleague. To Russia, and anyone else who has “a problem” with same sex relations.
Naturally beautiful
I have not always appreciated nature. By all means, nature has always been close to me or vice versa and I have always been part of it. But have I appreciated it? It might be so that as it has been such a natural part of my life I have taken it for granted. As a photographer…
What to do
Somtimes I just want to hug my children and tell them that everything is going to be all right. So that is exactly what I do. #theonlywayicanbeaparent
Leadership
I got the best grade from our 12-year old the other day. We were to mention three characteristics about each-other. He said (about me): Happy, loves her family (can be an adjective in Swedish) and… proper. Happy, yes that’s what everybody says, no surprise there. Proper, apparently I’m fooling someone ;). But “loves her family” – dang. Straight…
Nature and memories
I had to go back to my parents for another round of cleaning out of old stuff (so much crap one saves…). Instead of keeping it all I chose to take som pics. Driving to my parents I also got flabbergasted over nature’s brilliance. To be honest I must have grown up at one of…
Greatful
I don’t think there is anything greater than being greatful. The sense when you are truly thankful for not only what life has given you, but also who you handled it. For let’s be honest. I don’t think there is anyone going through life with no cares or bothers in the world. We all have…
Heritage, environment or jante at its best?
Reunions, what a strange arrangement. What a great arrangement. Last Saturday, 50% of all the students from the three graduating classes from Ljungbyheds junior high 1990, returned to a building where school dances were held 25-years ago. Did we time warp and become as we once were. Naturally, I can only speak for myself, but some extent yes. But only because…
Trying to convince myself
I know that the best thing I can do is to just go with it, there is not much/anything I can do. And that is killing me right now. To know what I want, to have it at an arms length, but still way out of reach and foremost out of my control. Trying to…
Sun
I love the sun. It doesn’t need to be ridiculously warm, but sun helps. Today is such a day. Time to enjoy it, with a cup of coffee. Ahhhh.
An ordinary life
I belong to what people would call “the commoners”. I am not famous (not notorious either for that matter). I don’t have famous friends. I don’t have loads of money that can take me all the places I want to go (this I would like to have, not so much the money as being able to…
How hard can it be?!
Our sons are of average intelligence, maybe even above. We never had anything to worried about, that’s what we’ve been told at every parent/teacher meeting since kindergarten. Can anyone then enlighten me why it is so hard for boys to lift the ring up when using the toilette? What extra class do they need to…
Soul food
Laying next to someone, reading a book (or a Donald Duck magazine), sharing some thoughts, stroking someone’s head, telling how important that person is, reminding them that you will always be around – if only a phone call away. That is what life is about. That is all I need to feel complete.
Coming home
I went to a CSR meeting yesterday. CSR – Corporate Social Responsibility. It was like I found a word for what I, as a communicator always have been about. Transparency and balance. But what hasn’t been the focus of the corporate forces. For me it was like coming home.
The constant repetition
The words comes constantly. Every morning. Every night. And usually somewhere in-between. The words words are: “I love you”. For me it is important to tell and show my kids they are the most important in my life. That I will always will be there for them. That they can count on me.
Another feeling of happiness
Women my age (ok, I) have the bad habit of waking up around the same time also on weekends. With no interest to go back to sleep. But that is alright! Sometimes when the Mr is away the kids take his place in bed. So here I lay. Listening to breaths belonging to two blond…
The feeling of happiness
Do you know how your happiness feels like? I do. Today was one of those days when I knew I was at the right place doing the right thing. All bubbly inside. I hope for a prosperous future.
35 and counting
Friends is what the soul requires once in a while. I know I have said it before but it is worth saying again, thank the world for friends. Had, almost on the minute, 24 hrs with Mrs P, once known as Ms W and Mrs W, once known Ms J, both dating back from my…
Everything is going to be fine
As a person I am quite demanding, I know. I am not ashamed of this, partly because I believe in both my own and other’s ability and alongside I try to meet my fellow humans with respect when demanding things of them. Since I can’t extract myself as a parent from my person I am naturally…
Being a woman
Today March 8, International women’s day I want to clarify some things. Women are great. Period. Men are also great. Full stop. Do I think that men are superior women? – No. And neither do I think that women are superior men. There are differences between the sexes, that’s awesome. The sad part is that…
Louise Dock 