I drink alcoholic beverages. I do not need to. But I do. I choose to. Good? Bad? I usually drink wine or beer. I never drink Gin & Tonic.
But I do not need to drink these alcoholic beverages. If I am about to drive a vehicle, I don’t.
When I carry (correct tempus, carried) a child in my belly (aka pregnant) I do not drink alcohol. When I breast feed (correct tempus, fed) I do not drink alcohol. I think it is unnecessary. I rate the taste and wished symptoms from drinking alcoholic beverages as less important to me then the possibility that I physically injure or create psychological distress to my child.
I do not have infants anymore. But still I have children. And I just realized that the mindset I had as a pregnant and breast feeding parent, is as current as it was back then. Does my current drinking behavior (nevertheless how small quantities it is) cause them distress? Do I want that?
I need to ask myself if I need to drink alcohol when they are around. If I need to drink alcoholic beverages at all.
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Well, the only one who can answer that question is you. I know that alcohol for sure helps my busy brain to relax, and to be really present with my children. Friday nights after two glasses of red wine is the best family time ever!!! Maybe sad, but never the less true.
If it is sad or not, is up to you to decide. As long as we dare to be honest with ourself.
What is the definition of “alcohol problems”? To me it is “when your drinking habits have consequences ” (read unwanted consequences) for you or foranyone around you. So if anyone among your friends and family indicates that they feel uncomfortable when you drink- you should listen to that. If you start choosing activities so that alcohol keeps being prioritozed- I think it is time to reconsider. So, on the contrary to former opinions I do not agree it is totally up to you as a user of alcohol to decide what is good, bad, sad, acceptable. I think it is time to respect what others say. Drinking to much? Ask your friends and family – if you dare….