Louise Dock

My life – my happiness

…to be a parent. I am not talking about the non sleep, which apparently is the worst thing in the beginning, or the terrible outbursts they get once in a while. No, I am talking about teaching or guiding your child to be a good person. Especially when you realize that very few other parents…

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Darn it is hard…

…to be a parent. I am not talking about the non sleep, which apparently is the worst thing in the beginning, or the terrible outbursts they get once in a while. No, I am talking about teaching or guiding your child to be a good person. Especially when you realize that very few other parents have that aim.

Personally, I am one of those that believes that keeping a promise is one of the most important things. Maybe it is not just about the keeping. It about standing up to the choices one makes, even if that choice made it necessary to break an earlier promise. Instead of walking away, letting the other one stand expecting something else .

No, I will not raise my kids to say that things doesn’t matter. I want them to prioritise themselves but do it fair and square and not become simple egocentric bastards.

I kept my promise and baked today. Both chocolate chip cookies and cup cakes with real icing on top, from my blog friend Freedom Smith’s recipe.  Note to myself (and to you guys), make the full batch. It is not enough with a half.

2 responses to “Darn it is hard…”

  1. Freedom Smith Avatar
    Freedom Smith

    Oh, did you make the chocolate icing? Isn’t it delicious? Good for you, doing all of that baking.

    I totally agree. Parenting is hard. My parents seemed to go back on promises and I, like you, try to keep my word. If, for some reason, things change and it is impossible, then I explain it to the kids. But there is nothing worse than having a child expecting something and then having a parent that chucks it or just doesn’t care.

    I am dealing with 16 going through a rough patch. I find myself totally confused as to how to reach her (on the inside). We can teach, love, talk, and do all of those things but we cannot reach and and change their hearts. Very frustrating and at times, heartbreaking.

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    1. louiseinskottorp Avatar
      louiseinskottorp

      Yes, I did. It was scrumptious. Can not say I have a bad experience my self when it comes to my parents and promises on the contrary. Maybe that is why it so greatly founded in me.

      That is why I get so upset if someone else, like a child promise my kid something and then don’t deliver. Of course I am not upset with the child but I believe that their parents should guide them to live up to the agreed thing OR be “man” enough to let one know that things have changed.

      But since I see the same thing in the parent I can’t expect the children to become any better… but it hard to try to teach my child to do “the right thing” when they are met by “the wrong way”. It is hard to make them follow the right but tough way.

      Reaching a 16 year old? One hope that all the work one have done during all the years before shall be there somewhere and let them make the right decision.

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