I should be working but I need to get of the breast feeding thing off my chest (ha ha). When I gave birth to our oldest, back in 2003, the breast feeding discussion was huge here in Sweden. When I say huge, I mean Titanic huge.

Back then,  you were screwed if you did not breast feed your child. I mean totally out of this world screwed. He/she would never accomplish anything and you, as mother, would burn in hell way before it was time for you to enter the kingdom of the dead.

I think it is unnecessary to say the stress this discussions gave me, as a first time mum with a “not-from-the start-functioning-feeding-process” (breast feeding is like riding a bike, you gotta learn). But hey, I am a tough gal and hung in there. And surely both my sons are showing potintial signs of being among the brightests, so good for me! 😉

Anyway, the point I am getting to, with the above mentioned. I do believe that each couple does whatever suits them best: Never the less, I do have a slight “trouble” understanding why one wouldn’t breast feed if it works. Anyway, YOU do what ever is the best for you.

What I do not believe in however, and I will stress this to absurdum, is when these not breastfeeding couples claim it is for equality reasons.

What the freaking, has breast feeding to do with equality?

“Yeah, in this was we can both spend (equal) time with the baby?!

What? Say again?!

If you truly believe that it is a sign of equality when you split the feeding of your newborn down the middle, I believe  you are focusing on the wrong things to reach equality.  Sure it is a good thing if the equality thoughts not have crossed you sooner or in any other topic. I mean something is better than nothing.

But no, I am totally sure of that this will not make your relationship more equal. And if a father has a hard time connecting to his offspring without the feeding I think it is a good thing to give a psychologist a call, I give you a helping hand here.

So breast feed or not is entirely up to you. But if you are going to explain it to me, make sure to have the true reasons behind your choice ready. I for sure will not buy into any equality BS.